Love is…

Yesterday marked 11 years since one of my best friends became more than ‘just friends’. We have had the most amazing 11 years and I couldn’t be more excited for all the time to come. 

I think the words above ring true not only for romance but for love as well. Anybody can fall in love. To stay in love means choosing to love every day. Even when you’ve had a long day or they’re in a bad mood. Love is in forgiving them when they snap at you for no reason, and in them forgiving you when you do it back. Love is in offering to make the dinner, even when you’ve had a bad day because you know theirs was bad too. 

Love is in the little things. Love is in bringing them breakfast in bed one Sunday because they’re engrossed in their book and don’t want to move. Love is putting your book down or switching off your favourite TV show to ask how their day was. Love is in really listening to the answer. 

Love is trying to make an effort to be interested in things, that don’t necessarily interest you, because you know it’s important to them. Love is remembering everyday things like the big meeting they had at work or their doctors appointment and checking how it went. Love is saying I love you, often, and for no reason other than to remind them how much they mean.

Love is spending real time together, having fun, being silly, laughing and experiencing everything in life, big or small, good or bad. Love is allowing each other space to do your own thing, recognising that no matter how head over heels you are, or how long you’ve been together, that you are still individuals and you both need ‘me time’ as well as ‘us time’.

Love is kissing goodbye every time you part, no matter for how short a time.

In fact I have found that, like most things in life, love is what you make it.

Off On the Right Foot

I find this poem, by Erin Hanson of The Poetic Underground, incredibly poignant. It especially strikes me as relevant with the UK elections looming just around the corner. I see and hear so much that focuses on the individual; politicians are selling policies on the basis of how it will affect you the individual, rather than us as a community/society. When did we become so inward looking? Where is our desire to live and grow together, to contribute to the bigger picture?

So often we strive to be the highest bough of the tallest tree. We are getting a little top heavy. Where are our roots?

I’m not saying we shouldn’t strive for the sky but why can’t we do it together? We need a stronger base if we are to soar rather than topple.

It’s not about you or me; forget the ‘I’, it’s time we recognised the importance of community.

Off On the Right Foot


It is so important to remember your own worth. There won’t always be someone else to remind you of it, and on those days when others fail to recognise your value, you must be the one to say to yourself “I am important. I mean something. I am part of the universe and that is fabulous.”

Have a lovely week.

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