It’s #TimeToTalk, Now

It’s easy to be too busy

Or say

It’s not the right time

To worry that you’ll make it worse

So you accept their fumbled

“Fine.”

It’s hard to find the moment

For hearing truth

And depth

But really we’re just finding excuses

To keep ourselves

Deaf

To all the pain that gathers

When people can’t speak

Truth

And have to keep it bottled up

For fear of hurting

You

But what happens when you leave it?

When you let the silence

Grow?

What if their pain is your pain too

But not asking means

You’ll never

Know?

So let’s all breathe together

Hold hands and take

A dive

Into conversation

With neighbours

Strangers

Friends

And lovers

Because

Now

Is The Time.

  • JH

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If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health then please don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone. You are not alone and help is available. By opening up and starting the conversation we can move forward together and look to a mentally healthy future. Below are links to a range of fantastic organisations that can provide information, advice and services.

The Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org

Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk

Young Minds – http://www.youngminds.org.uk

Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) – https://www.papyrus-uk.org

Self Harm UK – https://www.selfharm.co.uk

Time to Change – http://www.time-to-change.org.uk

Rethink Mental Illness – http://www.rethink.org

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – https://www.afsp.org

Please do not struggle alone.

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It’s #TimeToTalk Switching Off

Sometimes, all is noise:

Busy

Bustling

Chaos.

The mad rush from here to

There.

The happy buzz,

The anxious struggle,

The beeping, bleeping, never ending

Asks and answers,

Frets and favours,

Coffee percolating,

Email answering,

Frantic searching,

Forgot what I was doing,

Hamster-wheeling,

Plate spinning

Noise.

And sometimes

There is

Silence.

  • JH

It seems a little ironic to talk about switching off when I’m typing a blog post on my phone (thanks to a broken laptop) which will be read online and shared through social media, but being switched on and plugged in all the time is not good for us. It can in fact be really damaging to our mental health. We are caught in a constant onslaught of exposure to anything and everything. Bad news, images of perfection, and unrealistic expectations are everywhere. It’s enough to make anyone feel inadequate and exhausted.

Being plugged in all the time also prevents us from really engaging with the people around us. Looking around a crowded train carriage on the way into town or even around a restaurant on a Friday night, you see people everywhere staring at screens. Don’t get me wrong, I love my screens and technology as much as the next person, and I’m guilty of checking my phone more than I need to, but sometimes it really is nice to step out of the digital world we’re so caught up in and take a moment to enjoy the reality around us.

So set yourself a challenge to unplug for a while, even just an hour, and start a conversation with someone. A real conversation. It’s time to talk.

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If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health then please don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone. You are not alone and help is available. By opening up and starting the conversation we can move forward together and look to a mentally healthy future. Below are links to a range of fantastic organisations that can provide information, advice and services.

The Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org

Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk

Young Minds – http://www.youngminds.org.uk

Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) – https://www.papyrus-uk.org

Self Harm UK – https://www.selfharm.co.uk

Time to Change – http://www.time-to-change.org.uk

Rethink Mental Illness – http://www.rethink.org

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – https://www.afsp.org

Please do not struggle alone.

It’s #TimeToTalk – Fear

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Fear can be a crippling thing. It’s even worse when the thing you fear is a part of yourself because there is no running and hiding. How can you run from yourself? We have a tendency to follow ourselves wherever we go. And then it becomes a vicious circle because not only are we afraid of ourselves, of our own minds but we are afraid of the fear. It is a terrible thing to be afraid of your own mind. And we must fight against this deepest of fears. We must try to hold on to the knowledge that we are beautiful people, every one of us. That whilst our minds can create fear they can also create the most amazing things. There are whole worlds, whole universes inside us and we should be able to embrace that without fear. But that is not an easy thing to do. Not at all. So we need to be able to lift one another up. Sometimes we cannot see for the fog inside our own heads and we need a light from the outside to guide us back to hope. So reach out, shine alight into the lives of those around you. You never know when a kind word, a hug, a text or email, a funny tweet or a smile might be just the glimmer to pull someone away from their fear of themselves.

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health then please don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone. You are not alone and help is available. By opening up and starting the conversation we can move forward together and look to a mentally healthy future. Below are links to a range of fantastic organisations that can provide information, advice and services.

The Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org
Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk
Young Minds – http://www.youngminds.org.uk
Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) – https://www.papyrus-uk.org
Rethink Mental Illness – http://www.rethink.org
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – https://www.afsp.org
Please do not struggle alone.
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It’s #TimeToTalk – What’s Saving Your Life?

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In my experience it has not been big things that have changed my attitude towards mental health but a thousand tiny things and a millions tiny moments. These tiny things and tiny moments saved my life. They have given me the strength and courage to seriously consider my mental state and do something about it. The little things that save our lives is exactly what this rather fabulous post is all about. Is four minutes in the nude saving your life too?

Here’s a list of some of the little things saving my life right now:
– Books. Huge piles of books. Everywhere.
– Little moments in the car. My mum will get this even if no one else does. Sometimes when it’s been a long day and I get home from work, I just switch off the engine of my car and sit there in silence for a few minutes. Sometimes I’m thinking and sometimes I’m just sitting peacefully, but those few minutes are like a deep relaxing breath to me. So if you ever see me just sat in my car for no apparent reason, now you know.
– Doodling. Nothing major. Nothing fancy. Just little doodles on post-its, round the edge of my journal, anywhere really. It’s my version of a pensieve.

So, what’s saving your life right now?

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health then please don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone. You are not alone and help is available. By opening up and starting the conversation we can move forward together and look to a mentally healthy future. Below are links to a range of fantastic organisations that can provide information, advice and services.

The Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org
Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk
Young Minds – http://www.youngminds.org.uk
Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) – https://www.papyrus-uk.org
Rethink Mental Illness – http://www.rethink.org
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – https://www.afsp.org
Please do not struggle alone.
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It’s #TimeToTalk – What Is Normal?

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When we are struggling with mental health it is easy to fall into the trap of wishing to be ‘normal’. Wishing to be like everyone else. Believing that because we struggle we are somehow not normal. Well normal is an illusion. What is ‘normal’ for the spider is chaos for the fly. The ‘normal’ we think we see everyone else enjoying is quite probably not what it seems at all. It’s very possible that the person who’s normal you envy is looking at your in jealousy of your ‘normal’. Don’t get sucked into craving something that doesn’t exist. Life is complicated enough without that.

If you or someone you know is struggling with mental health then please don’t be afraid to reach out and talk to someone. You are not alone and help is available. By opening up and starting the conversation we can move forward together and look to a mentally healthy future. Below are links to a range of fantastic organisations that can provide information, advice and services.

The Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org
Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk
Young Minds – http://www.youngminds.org.uk
Papyrus (prevention of young suicide) – https://www.papyrus-uk.org
Rethink Mental Illness – http://www.rethink.org
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention – https://www.afsp.org
Please do not struggle alone.
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Words of Wisdom

Yesterday I had the loveliest evening with one of my favourite ladies. We ate good food and watched a good film and had a lovely old catch up. During the course of the evening this lovely friend of mine also came out with a real gem of wisdom. So important is it’s message I decided it needed it’s own blog post. And indeed it’s own motivational poster format…

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Read it well and take it to heart folks. Truer words there never were!

Love you H. ❤️