Today is International Happiness Day. I have been thinking a lot about happiness recently; I think I am generally a happy sort of person. I have a wonderful life and there are many things in my everyday that make me very happy indeed. I also sometimes feel profoundly unhappy, for no discernible reason, and subsequently make myself feel even more unhappy by berating myself for feeling unhappy in the first place. I am surrounded by happy people, but I am struck by the fluctuations in their happiness too: one of my very dearest friends has recently suffered a blow which is causing her deep unhappiness, whilst another has just experienced what will probably be one of the happiest moments of her life. Happiness is a strange and intangible thing which can both live inside the darkest of times and can dominate whilst unhappiness resides within it.
I wanted to take a moment to reflect on some of the many small things that can be little happinesses in themselves and that can contribute to a bigger happiness. I believe these little everyday happinesses are fundamental to our ability to cope when we are faced with unhappy events and moments. I believe that everyday happinesses are different for everyone but that they DO exist for everyone. I encourage you to create a ‘happy list’ of your own, to help you find comfort when it seems there is none. For now, I’ll leave you with a snippet of mine:
– Watching a puppy chase it’s tail or run to its hearts content.
– Laughing until you cry and your sides hurt – especially if the thing that made you laugh wasn’t actually that funny…
– Reading something that speaks directly to your soul.
– Receiving one of those really great hugs that feels like it’s squeezed all of your brokenness back together and finding that afterwards you feel just a bit stronger than before.
– Seeing spring flowers begin to emerge.
– Hearing a certain song that you just can’t stop yourself from singing and dancing along to.
– Singing songs from musicals at the top of your voice.
– The smell of that particular moisturiser that reminds you of mum and makes you feel like a child again.
– The taste of risotto that reminds you of dad and makes you feel like a child again.
– Toast with lots of lurpak, cut up into small squares, because that’s how gran used to make it.
– Knowing there are people who love you no matter what.
What are some of your everyday happinesses?